But What Will People Say?: Navigating Mental Health, Identity, Love, and Family Between Cultures

“This wonderful book is a compass, a blueprint, a mirror, and a friend. Kohli gives language to what many of us feel but can’t yet articulate.”
—Erika L. Sánchez, New York Times bestselling author of I am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter

Writer and therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli, the force behind the influential Instagram account @browngirltherapy, grew up knowing exactly what it meant to straddle multiple cultures at once. Like many children of immigrants, she often found herself plagued by questions: Can I establish my own values and embrace where I come from? Is prioritizing my mental health really rejecting my culture? How do I set boundaries and care for myself when family and community mean everything? Even after becoming a therapist herself, she saw those same gaps in the mental health world, leading her to wonder, like so many children of immigrants: what about us?

But What Will People Say? elegantly weaves together personal narrative, anecdotal analysis, and comprehensive research. Sahaj offers advice and tools for everything from navigating generational trauma, guilt, and boundaries, to breaking down stigmas around therapy and celebrating cultural duality. Democratizing and decolonizing the way we think about mental health and self-help, Sahaj’s incredible work is nothing short of a revolution.

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